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What It Means to Avoid Placing Pearls on Pigs...

 

One day, several years ago, I arrived early for a meeting.  Now, this is not typical.  I think I thrive on the adrenaline rush of being where I'm supposed to be 'just in time.'  Anyway, on this particular day I was so early that I had about a half an hour to sit in the parking lot.  It was sunny and pleasant.  However, my mind was not enjoying the beauty of the day.  I was deeply immersed in another activity...worrying.

2 blue jaysAs I rehashed the troublesome scenario, my attention was distracted by a little play that was happening just outside my car.  On the sidewalk, two birds were playing. They were hopping around, flying a little distance and  thoroughly enjoying themselves totally oblivious to Ms. Worry Wort baking in her car.  Or... perhaps, they were sent to get my attention.

Because suddenly, I was jolted by a small thought that entered my mind...I realised that I'd never seen a skinny robin.  I became mesmerized by the play, these birds were so joyful.  They seemed unconcerned about where there next meal was going to come from.  They were enjoying the sunshine and each other's company.  It struck me that if God knew how to feed robins and keep them plump and healthy, perhaps, I could trust Him to take care of my 'little issues' too.

This is one example of the many metaphors in nature that sacred scripture uses to instruct us about human tendencies.  There is the short inspiration about the fact that the wisest man who ever lived, King Solomon, was not arrayed as gorgeously, in all his splendor, as the lilies of the field.  We are admonished to observe the ant and follow it's example of storing up provisions for hard times even when it works in a manner similar to an Independent Contractor. Time and time again, insight from the world of nature reveals truth to us human beings if we will take the time to listen.

But, there was one story that never seemed to make sense.  It was about Pigs & Pearls.  In fact, Jesus said it this way in Matthew 7:6

"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces."  

While I didn't have problems with positive associations in the animal kingdom, this example always seemed sort of harsh.  Was he really talking about human beings and if so what was the appropriate comparison to pigs and dogs?

Well, the context of this verse is surprising.  This passage is part of the Sermon on the Mount, one of the most famous sermons ever preached.  The specific verses preceding this statement is about Judging other people and being a hypocrite by not dealing with the stuff that is a huge plank in our own eye before wanting to pluck out the speck of distraction in other people's eyes.  Essentially Jesus was saying...'Don't be the blind man trying to lead others."  Deal with your own issues first!

It begins to make sense.  When you think about it...What sort of person in his right mind, takes something sacred and gives it to a dog who will tear it apart.  What sort of fool gives precious pearls to a pig who will gladly receive them only to wallow in the mud?  Dogs and pigs do what dogs and pigs do...this should be obvious to all intelligent people.  But is it?

Apparently not, or this admonition would have been unnecessary.  Perhaps, we need to focus on WHY we fail to see a dog and pig clearly for what they are. Perhaps, we might consider what areas of our own lives are too painful to examine.  In what ways do we pluck out specks in other people's eyes rather than deal with the huge planks in our own? Could blindness from plank sized debris distort vision & right perspective?

 avoid obstructed visionPerhaps, this type of internal disorientation is what creates the unlikely scenario in which we begin to give dogs sacred things which should be cherished and then share our treasured pearls with swine who will not only misuse them, but turn around and tear us to pieces. 

As I reflect on this, I think that dogs and pigs are metaphors.   They represent the ways in which we compromise our selves.  It's sometimes easier to give ourselves at any cost and ignore the fact that saving your best self for your clients and people who don't know you is a betrayal of those who love us and hold us dear.  We sometimes downplay the care and service we give as something which can be trampled on by individuals who do not respect our knowledge, time or attention.  It is in these ways that we ultimately give pearls to pigs and watch our treasures be trampled on.

So, what does it mean to take 'Proper Care of Pearls'? 

Well, for starters, it starts with respecting oneself enough to own up to foolishness.  I've noticed that the temptation to judge other people is a good clue about what needs to be examined in my own life. 

Next, Learn to say NO.  Just because you are asked to give something doesn't mean that you should. 

Then determine to give yourself the respect that you deserve.  Why should others respect us when we don't respect ourselves.  Stop doing things that serve the ego and deplete the true core of who you are.  It seems to me that Dogs & Swine are much easier to recognize when your gaze is unobstructed and your eyes are wide open.

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I also like the passage from Scripture, to the effect, remove the plank from your own eye before pointing out the splinter in your brother's eye. A very "intellectual" blog today, Lola, and quite well written.
Posted by Blogger To Be Named Later over 2 years ago
Yes, Andrew...we're waxing a tad philosophical tonight. :)  Thanks for stopping by to read and comment.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago

Lola,

All the gifts we receive from God are 'pearls' to be treasured, for which we are to give thanks...if then, He chooses to have us share them with others, He will direct us to by wisdom and discernment, not in haste and waste and self gratification!!! JMHO, Thanks,   Fran

Posted by Fran 'The Title Man' Gaspari Title Insurance-PA & NJ (Patriot Land Transfer, Inc.) over 2 years ago
Lola, What a powerful post.  I am guilty of trying to make everyone happy and not saying no when I should.  This is not always a good thing for me.  I think we all know we can be guilty of this, but we need to stop and take notice.
Posted by Audrey June-Forshey, GRI, Gaithersburg, MD (RE/MAX Realty Group) over 2 years ago

Hi Lola,

I just finished posting a comment elsewhere about fair-weathered friends.  The timing on running into this posting totally floored me.  I've cast a lot of treasure before dogs in my life.  I've read that part of the Bible many times, but the connection never sunk in until tonight.  Thanks!  ~ Greg

Posted by Gregory Lohr (Freedom Foreclosure Prevention Services) over 2 years ago

Thanks for your comment and insight Fran...this portion of your comment expresses the essence of this truth so well...

He will direct us to by wisdom and discernment, not in haste and waste and self gratification!!!

Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Hi Lola, I wonder what was in your mind that drew this great piece up to forefront. I am certainly pleased to receive it and it is certainly timely. Today I was taken with yet another gamer and it was getting under my skin. I worked through it with the adviser of my soul and came to the startling conclusion that this person has a greater need that isn't being fulfilled and though wrongly using the system to gain against others, winning over them is challenge not worth measuring. It certainly is not why I am here for and I ended up writing a nice that perhaps I will have ready for tomorrow. Winning is when at the end of the day you know you did your best and contributed to others doing even better.
Posted by San Diego Real Estate Voice authored by William Johnson GRI CRS e-Pro CDPE (RE/MAX Associates) over 2 years ago
Audrey...thank you for stopping by tonight.  Seeing this passage through this prism was helpful to me as well.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Greg, it's a passage that has deep meaning. I'm thankful that this was helpful to you.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago

William...thanks for stopping by tonight and sharing your insight.  Perhaps, I could answer best by saying what was Not on my mind.  As I shared in my post, this passage has always been somewhat veiled to me. I believe the grace to understand was given when I stopped focusing on the task of being afraid of being taken advantage of and was given a startling insight...we're not so much taken advantage of, instead, we give away advantage. 

The context of the passage about judging then became clear.  When I don't look closely at my own glaring issues, I will default in a clear estimation of others and the situations that present themselves.  That's how self deception works...no matter how logical and rational we pretend to be.

Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Lola - what a timely post. My hubby and I were just talking about that very same thing. We all have to learn there are boundaries in our lives and we need to learn to say "no". It is most liberating!
Posted by Linda Scanlan (A Fan of AR) over 2 years ago
Learning to say NO like Linda just mentioned is an important step in really growing up.  I learned it when I walked away from an addiction.  And yes...it was very liberating.
Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) over 2 years ago
Linda...Thank you.  It is humbling to share a personal insight which is helpful to others.  Creating appropirate Boundaries is a huge issue for me & I suspect many others.  This type of learning is a part of the 'work of life.' :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Clint...Learning to say No is about maturing.  It's also about thoughts and intentions which although unobservable by the naked eye truly determine if a decision is inherently dishonest or filled with true integrity. Walking away from an addiction requires true clarity.  Blessings to you...
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
I definitely think the birds were sent to get your thoughts away from your worrying =) And the pearls and swine scripture is one I keep in mind. i actually refuse to debate my beliefs, because of that scripture. I'm a child of God. He's real. He loves me. He has great plans for me-for good and not evil, to give me hope and a future. I have no reason to try to defend that <=D
Posted by Lisa Hill (Daytona Beach Real Estate) (Florida Property Experts) over 2 years ago
 Nice thought provoking post. I enjoy watching birds, ants and squirrels when I am outdoors. I always appreciate my easy life compared to their struggles just to get food and shelter..
Posted by GITA BANTWAL, REALTOR BUCKS COUNTY, PA HOMES (ReMax Centre Realtors) over 2 years ago

Nice bible study sis.....

I am featuring this.......

AWESOME!!

=-)

Posted by Chicago, Illinois homes for sale ---- Alexander Harb (My Real Estate Referral L.L.C.) over 2 years ago
I enjoyed the post and right now everything is fine but there are times I need to be pulled back to this and appreciate what I have and don't get so focused on what is wrong with the world and appreciate what is right with it. Thanks for the post.
Posted by Terry Bonnie Westbrook Westbrook Realty Grand Rapids Forest Hills MI Real Estate (Westbrook Realty Broker-Owner) over 2 years ago
Lola, I also think of the passage, where we are admonished to not cast our pearls before swines. I learned from that to not give every bit of hard earned information away for free. We have learned pearls of wisdom throughout our careers and we need to be wise in who and when we share them. 
Posted by Missy Caulk-Ann Arbor- Realtor(R)- Ann Arbor Real Estate (Keller Williams-Ann Arbor) over 2 years ago
Lola, what a lovely post to read on a Sunday morning!  I got the same feeling the other day when I was in my home office on the phone, and I looked out the window at my neighbor's fat cat.  He was sunning himself, lying on his back in her grass. totally enjoying the moment!
Posted by Patricia Kennedy (Evers & Company Realtors) over 2 years ago

Hi Lola,

Thank You for your great post!

I have cast my pearls before swine a few times.  I don't do it anymore. I've been cut with their razor sharp teeth and will not subject myself anymore to such abuse!

Posted by Dan Woodworth * Encouraging Communicator (The Connection) over 2 years ago

Lola

I've always enjoyed your style of writing, but this one left me somewhat speechless. I think this is timely given the stage at which we're all living in the real estate industry. Those that properly cared for their pearls are immune to the current downturn, while so many others suffer unnecessarily....many blessings to you for an absolutely insightful, inspirational, and thought-provoking post.

To your continued happiness!

Posted by Bill Nazur (Nazur Enterprises, Inc. An Advisory Firm; Corona Mortgage) over 2 years ago
Lisa...Thanks for stopping by.  It's taken awhile to get to respond to the comments, but I always appreciate the feedback from posts on this series.  God's love for each of us is very precious.  I'd agree...it's beyond debating about.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Gita...Thanks for your comment.  Isn't it interesting however, that you animals don't seem to demonstrate the tension and stress that we do about daily needs.  And...we supposedly have many more resources available to us to get our daily needs met.  We can learn much from watching how nature trusts it's Creator.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Herb...Thank you for Featuring this Post in your group. 
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Terry, Thank you for stopping here to reflect and leave a comment.  These are truths that we all need to be reminded of from time to time.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Hi Missy, You're right in observing that this has implications for our professional lives as well.  Thanks for your comment.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago
Patricia...sometimes observing animals in nature can be so refreshing.  They seem to be able to enjoy their lives in ways that humans beings find difficult because we allow ourselves to become so distracted.  Thanks for your comment.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago

Bill, Thank you for a gracious compliment.

Dan...Seeing the truth about ourselves and our situation is a big thing...we are hopefully less likely to repeat our errors.

Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 2 years ago

I think Jesus' message can actually be taken somewhat literally - not about dogs and swine, but about giving our most precious gifts to people who actually appreciate them.

Posted by Brian Schulman - Your Lancaster County, PA Real Estate Professional (Coldwell Banker Select Professionals, Lancaster PA) over 2 years ago

..emjoying your series links, I relate rather literally, '..to the ways in which we compromise our selves..' This fall I was racing frantically - and unnecessarily to an appointment. This was also in a parking lot, where I ended up spending time, but for different reasons than yours. At the last moment before shutting the car door, I decided to remove my coat and accidentally shut the locked door with my keys inside.

To make it short, I lost a half hour waiting for help. Then I later realized, that I'd lost a pearl earring as I tried to stop the car door from shutting, while my arm was tangled in my sleeve.

arghhh.... that was a lesson - pearls to swine mhmm! '...respecting oneself enough to own up to foolishness........'

Posted by Deborah Pearce (Living Spaces Interiors & Home Staging) about 1 year ago

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