Inspired Real Estate For Today

This is awesome - thank you for the great post and reminder... so eloquently said.  :-)

You are welcome Tina.  Thank you.

Terrific, Lola. I'm listening...

Jeff 

Well said, Lola.  And how frustrating are people who don't listen?

Sorry Lola..I wasn't listening...what was that again?  Seriously, though, I think that one of the strongest people are those who can shut up and listen.

So am I, Jeff. :)

I like this Lola.  You would be so surprised how many in our business do not listen.  We must be good listeners AND remember what we have heard from our clients and colleagues.  We can never be reminded too much about this.

Lola - that is absolutely beautiful.  Thank you so much for sharing!

I hope your Valentines Day was a happy one.   

Lola - Thank you for such a beautiful reminder.  I especially liked the phrase

"Listening means that I accept that what you are saying right now is more important than...

What I need to say right now." 

That's so critical to active listening.  It's a challenge for me, and I'm working on it.  Thanks.

Karen, Frustration is not a commonly acknowledged by-product of not listening...but like you said in your comment, it's one of the side-effects. Thank you.

Larry, you're so right.  It takes a lot of strength to truly listen.  It is the strength of self discipline, the rigour of humility and the ability to hold one's self still.  Character traits that I am striving to master. :)

Lola- I did a double take when I first started reading......I even went to click the rest of the series to see what they were....why?  Because it's so well writen, and  the first part I was sure I had read, but guess that's what happens when someone writes something that we believe to know is true :)  Nice, very nice ......

Kimberly, Thank you.  I'm not surprised by how many do not listen.  I struggle to do so myself at times.

Carol, Good to see your comment.  My Valentines Day was very special.  I received gifts and I was able to give gifts. Thanks for asking.

Lynn, I can definitely relate.  My mind can work much faster than even my mouth.:)  I'm finding that this is more about humility than anything else.  Which, I must admit was somewhat of a surprise...

Kathy...Thank You.  To read a truth resonates to the core of the heart & often has us thinking we've seen "it" before.  We have.  In a sense we recognize it because we know it already.

Lola- What a beautiful post. When I train and coach I say, if you are thinking about what you are going to say next, you are not listening! 

"I feel what you say"...loved that sentence the best.  

When we truly listen we can see body expressions, we can hear what isn't being said.  

Lola,

Something we need to practice...and sometimes our shoulders are our ears!!! Thanks,   Fran

Lola...I love it! Listening is a fine art..you need to empty your mind of all the clutter and listen with it as well as your ears.

Something I heard many years ago now, is a continual lesson in the 'hard work' of listening - 'be slow to speak and quick to listen'. I always have to remind myself to keep from getting in the way of what ohers are saying.

Awesome reminder always in the training of those automatic responses!

Lola- thanks :)

Katerina...Very true.  So many of us are guilty of being only "half" present when we listen to others.  The problem with that is that we often miss significant inferences which are only observable to those who are fully engaged.

Kris...your comment about "feeling body expressions" is interesting.  Do you think this occurs even if we are not physically able to see the other person, but simply listening intently on the phone?

Thanks for stopping by to read and comment Fran. :)

Monika, Listening is a fine art.  It's one that I am continually seeking to perfect. :)

Deborah...Getting ahead of what others are saying is a primary cause for confusion & misunderstanding.  Thanks for adding your insights to this converstion.

I hear you.....um....I mean, I am listening.

That's different too, isn't it?

Hearing and listening. Great post.

When I listen...I relinquish the right to judge...That comment in itself says it all ! Great list thank you so much for sharing your inspiration with us !

Your right, it is an art to be a good listener, one should always listen more than they talk.

Take care!

RJH

Michelle...Although hearing is a vital component of listening, you're right we can hear and not really understand or comprehend what is being communicated.  Listening involves more than just hearing...Thanks for your comment.

Melissa...Appreciate your comment.

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment Robert.

Lola- I was a Suicide and Rape Crisis Counselor, and to answer your question you can indeed feel some sort of body language over the phone.....listening is so much more than just hearing words. 

Listening - truly listening is a powerful tool for the listener. They learn much more than by speaking.

Lola- what a beautiful choice, a hibiscus - and in my favorite color!

Kathy, Thanks for that insight.  That's my sense as well.  If we truly understand how to listen, I think even a telephone conversation can be revealing...far more than simply the words that are exchanged.

Absolutely Bonnie...That's why it's such a hard skill for some of us to master. :)  It is a continual process of learning for me.

I love hibiscus flowers too. :)  Thanks for stopping by Bill & Barbara Jo.

that's really cool.

i have a problem with the not interupting part.

Lola...

Oh...C'mon...I really want everybody to hush so I can tell them what I'm really thinking :)

Okay. So you saw that one coming from 1500 miles away :)

P.S. Blog Boy said I am getting predictable...Oh. No...Time for a new voice maybe? Or not :)  

TLW...ROAR!