We talk about them, ogle them, reminisce about memories we have of them and worry about their welfare. In many ways, the American love affair with our homes is typical of the patterns in a troubled romantic obsession. Our rapt attention as we watch the object of our affection on numerous TV shows is indicative of how deeply we are in love with the "idyllic vision" of our homes.
Recently Newsweek Magazine profiled a new book by Daniel McGuinn called "House Lust: America's Obsession With Our Homes." According to McGinn " The existence of the real-estate gossip columnist is just one more bizarre indicator of our fascination with homes, which continues even as housing values have fallen."
We not only want to know where celebrities live, we want to see exactly what their private spaces look like and what they have in their refrigerators...witness the popularity of Cribs. Even the prospect of diminishing house values has not dimmed our ardor.
But that's the thing with lust...it's desire can never be adequately satisfied. There is always a grinding need for more and more. It's an addiction which enslaves and distorts. While most Americans are well aware of the crisis that has beset the housing and mortgage industry, many still can't believe that they will be negatively affected. The fall-out of this refusal to accept this harsh market reality is evident in price reductions for homes in the tens and even hundreds of thousands of dollars at times.
In fact, McGinn indicates that a survey by Boston Consulting Group showed that 55 percent of Americans still think their homes are GAINING IN VALUE despite all evidence to the contrary. If you factor in the percentage who believe that housing prices are simply at a stalemate, I daresay the number would be closer to 75%. This is an astonishingly high Delusion Rate!
And as a testament to this belief, it is expected that Americans will spend 170 Billion dollars this year remodelling and renovating their homes. Many will do so in the expectation of increasing their home value in a rapidly declining market. And belief is a powerful thing. More than once in the past, American optimism has created lemonade out of lemons.
Remember the tech bubble? It preceded the current real estate crisis. Those were the days in which anything that ended with .com seemed to garner froth-like admiration and the sky is the limit financing options. When the boom turned to bust, thousands of programmers and entrepreneurs found themselves without jobs and the ardor for all things techie cooled substantially.
Well, there may be good that comes about as a result of this re-evaluation of our obsession with real estate too. Just like a good, stable relationship can't be sustained solely on the basis of giddiness, the sobering reality of declining prices, foreclosures and short sales may force us to take a good long hard look at what means to live in community.
For many Americans, the home became the piggy bank. A source of funding for all sorts of projects, whims, passions and fantasies through the vehicle of the home equity loan. This spending spree banked on one precariously ridiculous notion. This was that home prices would continue their dramatic ascension forever. The correction of reality grounded by gravitational forces which bring all things that go up back down...eventually may in the end prove to be an important grounding principle which steadies our economy and allows us to reassess where we place our value.
Our homes are the solid building blocks which anchor what America stands for. They are where families are raised, dreams are born and life is lived and relished in all it's various expressions. Although its' been fun to flirt and make houses bigger and flashier, trade and obsess about them, nip and tuck to stage them for success, ultimately it's not about what we do to our homes, but what our homes do for us. Perhaps we will discover that our somewhat maniacal obsessing will never match the rewards that arise out of of the commitment, nurture and creation of solid human relationships. That's not a Lust thing...it's a Love Thing!
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Lola Audu, is the Designated Broker & Owner of Audu Real Estate. Our company specializes in helping people buy and sell homes in the greater Grand Rapids, West Michigan area. You can contact us via e-mail @ info@auduhomes.com or by phone at 616-791-0511. Thanks for visiting our blog. Here are links to some of our most popular posts for you to enjoy!
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Lola,
The correction of reality grounded by gravitational forces which bring all things that go up back down...eventually may in the end prove to be an important grounding principle which steadies our economy and allows us to reassess where we place our value.
This is one of the most profound statements I've heard lately. You are so right on the money with this. Great post and I'm flagging for a feature!
The home became a piggy bank, how true.
I failed with a few of my friends, when I was telling them to sell when the first signs of downturn market became obvious, and they opted to refinance and take the money out. Now they can't sell for what they own.
I is mind boggling how people take a piece of paper and do calculations, and stick it into your face showing that they are much better off holding with all the money they get out. And then I am simply puzzled how fast they let that money disappear and end up in trouble.
Terrific post, Lola
Lola~
I'be bookmarked this one and am sending it along to my Brokers...Your point..."Our homes are the solid building blocks which anchor what America stands for..."is so well-taken..and as usual,so right on...THX!
It's just the way it is - it follows cycles - There will always be the natural correctional balancing of what is out of alignment with true meaningful and lasting values .......
..it is a love thing! made me think of Love Train http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9luQ-yerVc
;) luv it!
Hey Lola! Don't mean to blantantly plug my own site here, but this is EXACTLY why Zillow is so popular with consumers. 25% of the 4 million people that visit the site every month come more than 10 times! And like you said above, throw a celebrity home on the home page and the page views to that home skyrocket.
Hopefully that 55% will be right about their home soon. Hope you are doing well!
Lola,
Nicely written post! "Solid human relationships"...are what it's all about!!! Thanks, Fran
THANK YOU LOLA.
The matter of Americans love affair with their homes has been besmugged by the attempts of the financial market to change the focus from "home" to focus on "investment".
I remember a friend looking at some new townhomes in area some time ago and he made a remark "slums of tomorrow". I told him that they were not the "slums of tomorrow", they were where families lived with their children, ate their meals, walked their dogs, entertained friends and family, made love, planned their children's future. It was home to about 20 families, even if it was a family of one.
That shut him up.
Wonderful post Lola.
Lola...
Go Batter...Batter...Batter...
And...SHE SLAMS IT RIGHT OUT OF THE PARK...Yah. I'm yelling!
Need I say more? Thought not :)
P.S. Ha! Ha! I bet you didn't see that one coming :)
TLW...ROAR!
jane Anne, what a delight to have a comment from you. I trust the New Year is treating you well. Feel free to share with your Broker or anyone else who you think might benefit. It is important for all us to understand what homes truly mean and to celebrate the possibility not just profit they bring into our lives and community.
Thanks for the reminder.. We as the American people have to remember why you brought a home for to rise our family not to use it like an ATM machine. I lived in England for five year.. I rememebr when the market was down.. We had a mortgage of 40,000 pounds, but if you decided to sell the it we would owe the bank money.. because the home didn't have enough equity in it.. Now that the market has truned around to sell a property in Enland will net you a large return...
I guess we just have to wait and see how this will end up for us... five years from now....
This was a testament to the American Dream! Very good post!
For many Americans, the home became the piggy bank. A source of funding for all sorts of projects, whims, passions and fantasies through the vehicle of the home equity loan.
That is a big contributor to the current problem & the dreamweavers - who encouraged that life style and readily loaned them the money to fund it.