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Learning the Value of the Small Words...

The Power of Small Words...I've recently finished reading "The Manual, A Warrior of Light" by Paul Coelho the author of the famous allegorical tale, The Alchemist.  In this book, Coelho writes short inspirational essays which are at once delicious fare for the soul in their sheer breadth of beauty and perspective. I struggle to resist the urge to read it voraciously and also meditate slowly...allowing the wisdom to marinate within the core of my mind.

In one essay, Coelho makes the following statement:

"The Warrior knows that the most important words in all languages are the small words.  Yes. Love. God.  They are words that are easy enough to say and which fill vast empty spaces.  There is, one word-another small word-that many people have great difficulty in saying:No." 

I'm struck by how powerful each of these words is.  And by how empty and barren our understanding and usage of the words often are.  When I release the word Yes from my lips...what am I enabling the creation of?  Will it be for good or evil. 

Love, I'm discovering is not simply an action.  It is a state of being.  It's far more complicated than a feeling.  It's also some of the most difficult work that I've ever done.  How's that for paradox?

God...I'm tempted to leave that one alone.  There are no descriptives appropriate.  I also see more and more that another inversion of self...EGO is a shell which hides how small the truth of it's existence truly is.

And finally No.  Learning to say No and accept the consequences has been huge.  Most of the issues associated with No for me have been about fear and insecurity.  But as Coelho rightly observes in this essay, never saying No is not about being generous, it's more about being absent from one's self. 

Wrapped up in these small words, is a lifetime of Learning.  These are core truth...slowly distilled over time. 

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Comments

LOLA - Thanks for this thought-provoking post.  I like stuff that makes me think.  Have a great night!
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) over 4 years ago
Hi Jason, Thanks for reading. A Blessed Night to you as well. :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Lola - No, I have not read the essays. I love that God led me to the post. Yes, I shall feed my soul. Thank you for sharing. It is always humbling to re-discover....we didn't start the fire.
Posted by John MacArthur Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor (Frankly Real Estate) over 4 years ago

Lola~ I just started reading the Alchemist, so I'm happy to know that you enjoyed Coehlo's other book.

I wrote a blog the week about how learning to say no made me a better wife and mother, and I agree, the consequences of sayng no can be huge.

Posted by Lisa Ryan~Selling Princeton,West Windsor and Montgomery Township New Jersey (Henderson Sotheby's International Realty) over 4 years ago
John, Thanks for stopping by.  I'm glad you did.  I think you will find this book to be a journey worth taking and...good food for your soul. :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Lisa, I listened to The Alchemist as an audio book several years ago and enjoyed it very much. 
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Lola- Teaching children to know to say NO before the question of smoking, drugs, sex, etc even come up helps to empower them to feel strength in their NO. Important word! Katerina
Posted by Nestor & Katerina Gasset Realtors® Wellington Florida Homes For Sale (International Properties and Investments LLC) over 4 years ago

Good morning Lola,

The Manual of the Warrior of Light is my favourite book of recent years. As I've written in an AR post, 'I've read it over and over until I've felt the words themselves burnt upon my soul'......Paulo has incredible wisdom and guidance that came along right when I most needed it.
The Zahir is an excellent book also, as are his others.

Jo 

Posted by Jo-Anne Smith- Oakville, Burlington and Mississauga Region Real Estate, Ont (Your Choice Realty ) over 4 years ago

Lola - once again you have made my brain work overtime.  Thank you.

This is one of the most thought provoking posts I have read of late.  And also one of the most true.  I will have to pick up a copy of the Manual of the Warrior of Light and keep it handy as a reference.

Thank you - again and again and again... 

Posted by Carol Smith (Casmi Photography) over 4 years ago

Great post Lola.  The use of small words is powerful.  I would only add the adivce that I give agents when they encounter a problem and ask me "What should I say".  My response is "as little as possible".

I had an agent who persisted in giving me a line-by-line recount of conversations, on the phone, with agents who were not being helpful.  The longer she talked, the more I cringed. 

What would you have said Lenn??

Nothing. I would have faxed a message to her stating my clients position. 

Folks wouldn't believe that, in matters of real estate contract, I am a woman of few words.

Posted by Lenn Harley, Real Estate Broker, Virginia & Maryland (Lenn Harley, Homefinders.com, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate) over 4 years ago
Lola, Those "small" words are indeed powerful and some people spend a lifetime learning how to say NO.  I haven't read this book but it is now on my list.  Thank you for pointing out it's significance.  I know this is one of Jo's favorite authors as well.
Posted by Laura Cerrano and Carole Provenzale Owner, Feng Shui Long Island & New York (Feng Shui Long Island & New York City/Feng Shui Manhattan ) over 4 years ago

Lola, Single syllable words are the most powerful because they were our first words. They had to convey much because there just weren't that many words available to express ourselves.

Bill Roberts

Posted by Bill Roberts - "Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner (Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate) over 4 years ago
that certainly got me to thinking.................
Posted by Bill's Blog - Florida Realty Professional - AHWD (Charles Rutenberg Realty) over 4 years ago
Lola, I have not read The Manual but I do know that saying "no" to someone else often means you are saying "yes" to yourself. And I agree with Lenn, less is often more when it comes to real estate matters.
Posted by Kelly Sibilsky (Licensed Through Referral Connection, LTD.) over 4 years ago
Katerina...Very True!  You gave your children a powerful gift in that lesson.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Jo-Anne, reading your blog brought back memories of how much I'd enjoyed the Alchemist.  Your post on Paul Coelho was simply lovely & I'm so glad you mentioned The Warrior of Light.  I'll have to check out Zaphir.  Thanks for another great recommendation.  As for The Warrior of Light, I absolutely understand why this is a book that you re-read time & time again.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Jo-Anne, reading your blog brought back memories of how much I'd enjoyed the Alchemist.  Your post on Paul Coelho was simply lovely & I'm so glad you mentioned The Warrior of Light.  I'll have to check out Zaphir.  Thanks for another great recommendation.  As for The Warrior of Light, I absolutely understand why this is a book that you re-read time & time again.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Carol, You will not be disappointed.  My instinct is that you will find yourself coming back to this book, again & again & again. :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Carol, You will not be disappointed.  My instinct is that you will find yourself coming back to this book, again & again & again. :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Lenn, Thanks for your comment.  So often our overuse and excess use of words get us into lots of trouble.  Learning to be succinct is one of the most important elements in being a successful negotiator...which you are. :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Carole P. I think you'll enjoy the book.  The Alchemist is also great if you've never read anything by this author.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Hi Bill, I'd never thought of single syllable words in the way you expressed in your comment.  Quite an interesting insight...
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago

Bill & Barbara Jo...Appreciate your stopping by to read & comment.

Kelly...learning what these words truly mean is a lifelong experience!

Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago

I hadn't even read this post and wrote one about Ego....goodness...some kind of wave length going on here.  :)

Wasn't there a movie the Alchemist?  Or am I thinking of Merlin. In any case...

EGO is a shell which hides how small the truth of it's existence truly is  and the center of self is where we find the existence of truth. :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, RA, CRS, HAWAII Real Estate & Relocations (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 4 years ago
Wow, Sally...I'll be heading over to your blog to see what you have to say.  Thanks for stopping by to read and comment.  I'm not aware of a movie about the book, The Alchemist. 
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago
Ha!  did you say wow with the add on?  I was saying wow...with your part!  I knew there was something on the Alchemist....Lawrence Fishburne...actor who starred in Apocolypse Now is making a movie from that book.
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, RA, CRS, HAWAII Real Estate & Relocations (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 4 years ago
Fishburne is one of my favorite actors.  Do you know when the movie will be released?
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago

Lola-Yes, some of the simplest words can indeed be the most powerful. I also agree that we learn throughout our lives......and some of the hardest lessons can be the most beneficial and lasting. 

** Just curious....where did you go to school?  I am amazed at how many words you use that I have no idea what they mean :) :)  Now how's that for a comment on using "the small words" :) :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago
Kathy, I'm sitting here laughing at my computer. :) I've never been asked where I went to school based on the words that I use.  My vocabulary is probably because of my love for books.  However, since you asked...I went to school in Jos, Nigeria and then Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan and received my degree from the University of Wisconsin in Madison.  Thanks for stopping by.  I appreciate your visits. :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago

Lola- Nice....and your degree, what were your fields of interest? 

Oh and if I was to get my vocabulary from Books.....ummm I actually know most of the words in a Dean Koontz novel :) :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago

They said to be determined....

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, RA, CRS, HAWAII Real Estate & Relocations (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 4 years ago
Kathy, in my "past life" I was involved in healthcare marketing for a major foodservice distributor.  My double major was in Dietetics and Food Science/Management.  Can you believe that? :)
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago

Lola, here are a few more small words to live with, courtesy of Dale Carnigie

"If it is to be its up to me"   Nuff said there....

Posted by Mike Norvell Sr / Norvell Consulting Group (Morris Williams Realty) over 4 years ago
Thanks....and yes I can believe it....we all had different interests when we were in school......glad you're here now though :) :)
Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago
I couldn't agree with you more Lola. I love what you wrote.
Posted by Sue Prins- Realtor- Greater Grand Rapids, MI (Five Star Real Estate) over 4 years ago
I think it was Marianne Williams that said "no" is a complete sentence. And it's been my personal experience that people talk but rarely listen. If you just shut up it's amazing what people will tell you.
Posted by Dena Stevens ~ Putting the 'real' into REALTOR (Century 21 Canon Land & Investment) over 4 years ago

Mike, Thanks for stopping by to read, visit and share.

Thanks Kathy.

Sue, Appreciate your visit and your comment.

Thanks for sharing that powerful quote by Marianne Williamson...Your personal observations about listening are also appreciated Dena.

Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate over 4 years ago

Words are so very powerful Lola. While I haven't read Coehlo's work, his titles have captured my attention profounbly from time to time - I know at some time I will read his work - everything in its time.

I did however attend a fascinating local theatre reading of the Alchemist, which left me wanting to read the book to savour it and leave time for some thought.

Love is truly a state of being - I believe, the naturally intended state not only of humanity but of the world. Modern science may be close to showing this as well as may other afore-thought esoterics! 

Posted by Deborah Pearce (Styling, Staging, Sales and Business. ) over 4 years ago

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